CampusLife

Wellness Center

Many students have questions about sexual health and how to remain healthy while sexually active or are seeking information on how to avoid pressures to become sexually active. The Wellness Center can provide unbiased scientific information about sexually transmitted diseases (STDs), contraception (including barrier methods of contraception and hormonal / non-hormonal contraception), abortion, alternatives to abortion, waiting for sex, and sexual decision-making.

Concerning Waiting for Sex

Waiting for Sex

Even for those in committed relationships, waiting for sex is a totally viable option, and does not have to be for religious reasons - it is simply a decision about boundaries undertaken by partners of any relationship status or sexual orientation. We prefer to discuss 'waiting for sex', since the word "abstinence" has such a negative connotation. "Abstinence," however, is scientifically defined as abstaining from sexual activity including oral, vaginal and anal sex or genital touching. Some people may want to make their own definition of what they want to abstain from.

The frequency of, or your decision to or not to have sex is not a binding contract; you can always change your mind! Likewise, even if you have had sex before, there is nothing wrong or strange about taking a step back, or taking a break from sex entirely until you decide you are ready to start again.

In fact, according to the American College Health Association in 2009, 30% of current college students reported NEVER having oral or vaginal intercourse. Additionally, 30% reported having had oral sex, and 20% reported having had vaginal intercourse, but not in the 30 days prior. So when you hear people say "Everyone's doing it," that's probably not the case.

Remember: you can contract STDs from ANY sex act, so appropriate protection needs to be used if you're not going to abstain from all sexual activities.