We are often advised to "live an authentic life." Sarah McBride knows what those words really mean—and the deep personal price we pay for not doing so. In 2012, McBride was 21 years old, president of the AU student body, and poised to reveal her true self to the campus community. In the last days of her presidency, McBride came out as transgender in a Facebook post and Eagle op-ed. The AU community's reaction was overwhelming positive. Hundreds of young transgender individuals wrote to thank McBride for her courage. As a senior, she worked tirelessly for the successful passage of the Gender Identity Nondiscrimination Act in Delaware, her home state. Today, McBride continues the work she began at AU, advocating for LGBT individuals to enjoy the same rights and privileges afforded to the rest of society.
Q. Why is authenticity in the way we live our lives so important for individuals and for society?
A. Living authentically isn't an act of courage as much as
an act of survival. For some, the fear of coming out is so great, they can
continue to live an inauthentic life. But at a certain point, the pain becomes
too much to bear. For me, having one more day pass by where I wasn't living my
true self seemed like such a wasted opportunity, such a wasted life.
The Internet has been great for the LGBT community. I know
many older transgender people who say, "I didn't know there was a single person
like me until I was 40." I can't imagine growing up in my teenage years without
access to that information. Even though I wasn't 100 percent ready to accept
who I was, I knew. I would look in my mirror and say, "I'm transgender" or "I'm
a girl," and feel immense shame. When I came out and there was such a positive
response from the AU community, that was the first moment I truly felt proud of
who I am. It gave me a lot of strength and a lot of courage to move forward.
It's understandable for parents of transgender kids to have a sense of loss. This person is going to look different and sound different. But it's the same person, the same child.
My father said to me that he was not losing a son, but gaining a daughter. That was one of the most profound moments in my transition. It was a major relief when it was clear that both my parents saw me as who I am. To have your child living an authentic life, being his or her true self, that's something to be celebrated.